{Advice We Love}: Selecting the Right Wedding Officiant

Selecting the Right Wedding Officiant

Yolanda Shoshana (Luscious Lifestyle Diva)

It is always interesting when a bride-to-be waits till the last minute to find an officiant. This may not be the best move, especially if you are getting married during the popular wedding months. The best officiants get booked fast, and you just may end up with an officiant you have to settle on. You work hard to plan everything so that it is a perfect day, so why should your wedding officiant blow it? A wedding officiant sets the tone and pace of the wedding ceremony, so you will want the right one standing before you.

It is important that you and your partner decide what type of ceremony you want to have such as interfaith, spiritual, traditional, etc. before you select an officiant. Feel free to think outside of the box with what you want in a ceremony; you really can have exactly what you want. Having in mind the type of ceremony you want will help you narrow down your search for an officiant.

Find out what the state you live in requires in the qualification of an officiant. Each state has its own rules when it comes to who can officiate weddings. For example, in New York State anyone you choose can marry you, but in New York City it’s a whole other case. The person officiating the wedding has to be registered with the court. If you live in a state where it is required for the person to be registered, they should be able to supply you with a number from the court, so make sure you check the number to confirm they are legit. The last thing you need is to find out on your ten-year anniversary that “technically” you aren’t considered married. Check the officiant number.

You should question how much the officiant is willing to customize the wedding ceremony. There are officiants who will create one ceremony and use it for every couple that they marry. Talk about boring and impersonal. Then there are officiants like me who specialize in creating customized ceremonies. In a customized ceremony, you can add prose, poems, songs, have dancing bears, that basically allow your imagination to run wild. Also, find out if you want your friends and family to play an active role in your ceremony and see how the officiant feels about that. These are important questions to ask when you interview. The officiant should be incorporating your vision into the ceremony.

Personality is key when selecting an officiant. For the most part, when you interview the officiant, what you see is what you get. Choosing someone with personality will ensure that your ceremony is unique, plus there is nothing worse than an officiant so boring that everyone at the ceremony is falling asleep. Everyone has been to a boring wedding; you know you don’t want that to be you.

Last but not least, find an officiant who makes you feel comfortable. Don’t forget that the officiant works for you, not the other way around. It is your big day, one to remember forever.

{Advice We Love}: If the shoe fits: comfort and style

Here’s the second wonderful article by Lorraine DarConte on examiner.com.

Shoes not only do they need to work with your gown, they also should be comfortable enough to get you through the day without sores or blisters. If guests see you grimace as you walk down the aisle, they may wonder if you’re having second thoughts! Here, some tips on choosing stylish yet comfortable footwear for your big day.

Danielle Bobish, Founder/Creative Director of Curtain Up Events (www.curtainupevents.com) in NYC, agrees comfort should be a bride’s first consideration because a wedding day is a long day.  “Once you’re in your dress there are pictures followed by a ceremony followed by a reception, etc.  Standing (and dancing) in heels for that long can be painful,” notes Bobish.  “With that said, keep comfort in mind when looking to buy your wedding shoes.  [Your shoes] can still be beautiful, but being able to walk and dance is key. The second factor is, of course, beauty.  With some gowns, you will never even see the bride’s feet, but with others they are visible the entire time.  If that’s the case,” continues Bobish, “you want to have stylish shoes that compliment that gorgeous dress!”

“Shoes may be beautiful on the outside,” adds Erika Phipps, Bridal Stylist La Belle Reve Bridal (http://www.labellereve.com/index.php), “but you may find that they can feel like a torture device for your feet if you are not careful. Try the shoes on and walk around in them for a few minutes before you make your purchase decision, be sure that you get the right size, and width for your foot. And above all, make sure you break in your wedding shoes before the big day. Otherwise,” continues Erika, “you may be in a world of hurt. If you decide to wear heels, the break-in rule is about four days. This means you should wear them for at least four to six hours for four days before the wedding. When it comes to the groom’s shoes color and comfort are the two main things to pay attention to. When the groom is looking for shoes, he should first match the color, then the size, and then break-in his shoes, as well. The break-in rule for leather or men’s shoes is generally three days.”

Alissa Kraisosky, owner and designer for SummerJasmines (www.summerjasmines.com) suggests brides steal a trick used by models. “Choose bridal shoes that are one to two sizes larger than your usual shoe size. Walk around the shoe salon to test that they don’t slip. Especially if you have a sky-high heel, this will provide more comfort and your feet will thank you later. In addition, a pair of foldable sandals or ballet flats are a great accessory if and when your shoes start to pinch. Stay stylish and yet keep (comfortably) dancing the night away!”

Shoe News
Shoe designer Chie Mihara (http://www.chiemihara.com) has added a romantic new addition to her feminine and eclectic collection by launching her first bridal collection. Silhouettes include high heels, classic shapes and booties with both subtle and elaborate details, and materials range from classic soft leather to grainy leathers, satin pleated laces, rouching and soft floral details. The twenty bridal styles are designed with a soft color palate of rose, pale yellow and cream. Sweet and rounded shapes seen throughout the collection are nostalgic of the renewed energy of spring fashion trends. “Entering the bridal market was a natural evolution,” states Chie, “and fits within the collection. For me, it was important that women have unique and comfortable options for one of the most important days of their lives.”

For the groom, consider stylish shoes by Magnanni, which feature classic lines, ultra-quality materials and old world craftsmanship. Founded by Sebastian Blanco, the family company is run by his son Pascual and four grandsons in Almansa, Spain. A close attention to detail, combined with limited distribution, has garnered Magnanni a global reputation for excellence.

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Please see the original article at examiner.com. LOVE IT! Thanks again Lorraine!

{Advice We Love}: If the shoe fits: make a splash with color

Check out the latest article that CUE’s very own Danielle Bobish is featured in! Lorraine DarConte is writing a series of articles featured on examiner.com that discuss the latest trends for brides and that perfect shoe. See what Danielle has to say…

If the shoe fits: make a splash with color


Although finding the perfect wedding dress is a challenge, so is tracking down the perfect pair of shoes to compliment your gown. Should you wear heels or flats—something classic or trendy? “You want to have stylish shoes that compliment that gorgeous dress,” states Danielle Bobish, Founder/Creative Director of New York City-based Curtain Up Events (www.curtainupevents.com). “Going with matching shoes seems like the obvious choice, however, I really enjoy seeing shoes with a shot of color or a nice metallic hue. Maybe,” suggests Bobish, “make your shoes that ‘something blue’!”

According to Erika Phipps, bridal stylist, La Belle Reve Bridal (http://www.labellereve.com/index.php), one of the biggest trends for 2010 is colorful shoes. “If you are wearing a white dress,” says Erika, “then why not add a splash of color to your feet, since you won’t be running the risk of mismatching. Purple or black are the two most popular colors for the wedding season, she notes. However, it’s your day, so choose whatever color you want.” Erika suggests either picking a shoe in your favorite color or perhaps one that matches your bridesmaids’ dresses. “Don’t be afraid to make your feet pop,” she says.

Ariana Gestson, who is a fashion enthusiast and fashion blogger for District Bride Guide, says picking shoes for your big day should be the least stressful and most enjoyable part of organizing your wedding ensemble. “For about 90% of brides, shoes will be hidden under layers and layers of silk and tulle,” she states. “This is why it has become so trendy to wear a statement color shoe under bridal gowns. Not only do brightly colored shoes make women feel sexy, it is also fun to know that under your traditional white dress you are making a fashion statement. While the shoes may be hidden throughout the ceremony,” reiterates Gestson, “they should certainly come out to play for pictures. A bright dash of color against a white dress can look phenomenal in photos.”

Embellishments and accents such as flowers, bows, feathers and bling are another great trend for shoes right now. “These embellishments also add more character to the overall bridal look. Add a bow for a touch of girlish sweetness; feathers for timeless elegance; or gems to show how much of a princess you are,” concludes La Belle’s Erika.

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