{Advice We Love}: Selecting the Right Wedding Officiant

Selecting the Right Wedding Officiant

Yolanda Shoshana (Luscious Lifestyle Diva)

It is always interesting when a bride-to-be waits till the last minute to find an officiant. This may not be the best move, especially if you are getting married during the popular wedding months. The best officiants get booked fast, and you just may end up with an officiant you have to settle on. You work hard to plan everything so that it is a perfect day, so why should your wedding officiant blow it? A wedding officiant sets the tone and pace of the wedding ceremony, so you will want the right one standing before you.

It is important that you and your partner decide what type of ceremony you want to have such as interfaith, spiritual, traditional, etc. before you select an officiant. Feel free to think outside of the box with what you want in a ceremony; you really can have exactly what you want. Having in mind the type of ceremony you want will help you narrow down your search for an officiant.

Find out what the state you live in requires in the qualification of an officiant. Each state has its own rules when it comes to who can officiate weddings. For example, in New York State anyone you choose can marry you, but in New York City it’s a whole other case. The person officiating the wedding has to be registered with the court. If you live in a state where it is required for the person to be registered, they should be able to supply you with a number from the court, so make sure you check the number to confirm they are legit. The last thing you need is to find out on your ten-year anniversary that “technically” you aren’t considered married. Check the officiant number.

You should question how much the officiant is willing to customize the wedding ceremony. There are officiants who will create one ceremony and use it for every couple that they marry. Talk about boring and impersonal. Then there are officiants like me who specialize in creating customized ceremonies. In a customized ceremony, you can add prose, poems, songs, have dancing bears, that basically allow your imagination to run wild. Also, find out if you want your friends and family to play an active role in your ceremony and see how the officiant feels about that. These are important questions to ask when you interview. The officiant should be incorporating your vision into the ceremony.

Personality is key when selecting an officiant. For the most part, when you interview the officiant, what you see is what you get. Choosing someone with personality will ensure that your ceremony is unique, plus there is nothing worse than an officiant so boring that everyone at the ceremony is falling asleep. Everyone has been to a boring wedding; you know you don’t want that to be you.

Last but not least, find an officiant who makes you feel comfortable. Don’t forget that the officiant works for you, not the other way around. It is your big day, one to remember forever.

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{CUE Real Wedding}: Jade + Ryan

The elegant mid-May wedding between Jade and Ryan at Glen Cove mansion provided the perfect romantic escape from the hustle and bustle of everyday life for this Manhattan couple. The simplicity in design, the pops of pink color, and the romantic glow of candle light in both the ceremony and reception tied together the special details for this estate wedding.

The girls of Curtain Up Events were found working their hardest to transform this rustic mansion into something special by adding little details throughout the space. With the banisters swagged with sheer fabric and gold ribbon, the windows lined with flower petals and candles, and the isle glowing in the dusk light, everything came together for this rather intimate affair.

Ceremony and Reception: Glen Cove Mansion

Floral: Flowers by Topaz

Photography: E. Leigh Photography

Videography: Kiss the Bride Films

Design and Coordination: Curtain Up Events

Thank you to all of the vendors that worked so hard to make Jade and Ryan’s day special!

We would also like to extend a super-duper thank you to the amazing photographer Erin Leigh (and her awesome photographer husband Mat) for sharing these beautiful photos with us.

xoxo,

Emily

{Advice We Love}: If the shoe fits: comfort and style

Here’s the second wonderful article by Lorraine DarConte on examiner.com.

Shoes not only do they need to work with your gown, they also should be comfortable enough to get you through the day without sores or blisters. If guests see you grimace as you walk down the aisle, they may wonder if you’re having second thoughts! Here, some tips on choosing stylish yet comfortable footwear for your big day.

Danielle Bobish, Founder/Creative Director of Curtain Up Events (www.curtainupevents.com) in NYC, agrees comfort should be a bride’s first consideration because a wedding day is a long day.  “Once you’re in your dress there are pictures followed by a ceremony followed by a reception, etc.  Standing (and dancing) in heels for that long can be painful,” notes Bobish.  “With that said, keep comfort in mind when looking to buy your wedding shoes.  [Your shoes] can still be beautiful, but being able to walk and dance is key. The second factor is, of course, beauty.  With some gowns, you will never even see the bride’s feet, but with others they are visible the entire time.  If that’s the case,” continues Bobish, “you want to have stylish shoes that compliment that gorgeous dress!”

“Shoes may be beautiful on the outside,” adds Erika Phipps, Bridal Stylist La Belle Reve Bridal (http://www.labellereve.com/index.php), “but you may find that they can feel like a torture device for your feet if you are not careful. Try the shoes on and walk around in them for a few minutes before you make your purchase decision, be sure that you get the right size, and width for your foot. And above all, make sure you break in your wedding shoes before the big day. Otherwise,” continues Erika, “you may be in a world of hurt. If you decide to wear heels, the break-in rule is about four days. This means you should wear them for at least four to six hours for four days before the wedding. When it comes to the groom’s shoes color and comfort are the two main things to pay attention to. When the groom is looking for shoes, he should first match the color, then the size, and then break-in his shoes, as well. The break-in rule for leather or men’s shoes is generally three days.”

Alissa Kraisosky, owner and designer for SummerJasmines (www.summerjasmines.com) suggests brides steal a trick used by models. “Choose bridal shoes that are one to two sizes larger than your usual shoe size. Walk around the shoe salon to test that they don’t slip. Especially if you have a sky-high heel, this will provide more comfort and your feet will thank you later. In addition, a pair of foldable sandals or ballet flats are a great accessory if and when your shoes start to pinch. Stay stylish and yet keep (comfortably) dancing the night away!”

Shoe News
Shoe designer Chie Mihara (http://www.chiemihara.com) has added a romantic new addition to her feminine and eclectic collection by launching her first bridal collection. Silhouettes include high heels, classic shapes and booties with both subtle and elaborate details, and materials range from classic soft leather to grainy leathers, satin pleated laces, rouching and soft floral details. The twenty bridal styles are designed with a soft color palate of rose, pale yellow and cream. Sweet and rounded shapes seen throughout the collection are nostalgic of the renewed energy of spring fashion trends. “Entering the bridal market was a natural evolution,” states Chie, “and fits within the collection. For me, it was important that women have unique and comfortable options for one of the most important days of their lives.”

For the groom, consider stylish shoes by Magnanni, which feature classic lines, ultra-quality materials and old world craftsmanship. Founded by Sebastian Blanco, the family company is run by his son Pascual and four grandsons in Almansa, Spain. A close attention to detail, combined with limited distribution, has garnered Magnanni a global reputation for excellence.

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Please see the original article at examiner.com. LOVE IT! Thanks again Lorraine!

Celebrate the 4th in Style

Looking for last-minute party ideas for Sundays 4th of July celebration? Look no further because we at CUE have a few tips on simple table decorations, fun drinks, and playlist recommendations!

Easy, yet chic centerpieces.

Everything is coming together for Sunday’s bbq, you have all the food planned out and everyone is assigned to bring something, you have the tables planned out, but you forgot about centerpieces. Here is an easy, yet chic centerpiece idea to give even the kiddy tables a grown up look.

Run to your local Whole Foods or market and pick up several bouquets of white hydrangea. Prepare the flowers by cutting the stems, grab a few vases that you have around the house (or borrow a few from your friends and family… I love the eclectic look; wide mouth vases will work the best), fill them up with water and pop the flowers in. I really like the look of white hydrangea, and bring in pops of color by tying red or blue (or both) ribbon around the vase.

This is a simple and very inexpensive way to class up your tables with some nice centerpieces.

*** Sample of a DIY hydrangea centerpiece that we constructed at a recent event.

Refreshing summer drink that is perfect for kids and adults!

One of my favorite easy 4th of July recipes is a festive drink, inspired by one by Martha Stewart (the photo here was my inspiration– it belongs to her!).

To make the garnish –which is perfect for the Fourth!– simply press a cookie cutter though a thin piece of watermelon rind. So pretty and fun!

Ingredients:
1 pt. fresh, ripe strawberries
3 cups seedless watermelon, diced
1 lime, juiced
2 liters. ginger ale

Instructions:
1. After cleaning your strawberries and watermelon, put them into the blender on high to make a purée.
2. Mix them with the ginger ale. You can serve this beverage as it stands with ice, or change it by doing any of the following:

* Freeze the berries and melon for a “smoothie” (this is a huge hit on a hot day!)
* Using one liter ginger ale and one liter champagne
* Adding berry vodka to the mix for the adults
* Add blueberries to float in the drink (red, white, blue)

Oh, yummm!

And now to get the party going, you need a playlist that gets your guests in the mood to celebrate.

A few weeks back, my roommate decided to throw a “Party in the USA” party, and I was in charge of creating the playlist. I decided to stick to the theme and only add songs that had America, USA, or the name of a state in the lyrics. It really hurt my brain to think that hard about music, but I took my task to heart, and this is what I came up with (I think it’s appropriate to bust it out again for this weekend).

American Woman
American Pie
American Baby
American Honky Tonk Bar Association
American Ride
R.O.C.K. in the USA
Don’t Stop Believin’
Sweet Home Alabama
Georgia
Empire State of Mind
California Girls
Hotel California
Pink House
Take Me Home, Country Roads
City of New Orleans
Beautiful America
Buffalo Soldier
Wakko’s 50 State Capitols (oh, yes, I threw that in there, thank you Animaniacs)
Small Town USA
Keep on Rockin’ In the Free World
Party in the USA
God Bless the USA
Living in America
Everyday America
Born in the USA
Surfin’ USA
American Saturday Night

That’s just the start of our playlist. Come up with more songs of your own. What are your must have songs for this weekend of celebrating?

We wish you all a safe and happy holiday weekend from the girls at CUE!

xoxo,

Emily